Those of you who are familiar with the choices method of EFT as developed by Patricia Carrington will recognize the similarities to this way of using EFT to improve self-esteem.  This method was also developed by Patricia and is quite simple to implement.

All it involves is performing the set-up as usual by stating the problem and then following it by a nourishing affirmation.  In ‘normal’ EFT this is usually followed by tapping on the acupressure points whilst repeating the negative reminder phrase.

The nourishing affirmation is ignored after the usual set-up.  Patricia recommends that instead of doing that we carry on and tap one more round, as in the ‘choices’ method but this time repeating the affirmation on each point.

This would go like this:

“Even though I’m stressed about my job, I deeply and completely love and accept myself.”

Negative reminder phrase:……………”This stress.”

Do one whole round, followed by one whole round of:

EB…. “I deeply and completely love and accept myself”

SE……”I’m willing to deeply and completely love and accept myself”

UE……” I can still deeply and completely love and accept myself.”

UN……”What if it was easy to deeply and completely love and accept myself.”

UL……” I deeply and completely love and accept myself.”

CB……” I deeply and completely love and accept myself.”

UA…….”It’s easy to deeply and completely love and accept myself.”

TH…….”I deeply and completely love and accept myself”

Using this method with clients or oneself helps to increase self-esteem.

Hint: Emphasising the words in Bold helps to add more feeling into the phrases thereby instilling them more easily into the subconscious mind.

To your success, Christine

Not knowing what you want in life is far more common than most people think.  I ask each of my clients what they want to achieve and where they want to get to and without exception they have no idea.

I guess the people who do know what they want don’t come to therapy as they are too busy achieving their goals.  Most people drift through life at the mercy of the winds of fate without realizing that without direction they may just go around and around in circles all of their lives.

Then when they find out that it is important to set goals they decide they simply have no idea what they want out of life.  Often though this is far from the truth, most people have secret desires and dreams but they repress them because they think they are impossible.

The first thing to recognize is that not having a vision indicates a blockage within you or your client.  It is a natural tendency to want certain things in life and to deeply enjoy getting them.  If you have no great or deep desires and no vision of what they might be there are probably compelling reasons for their absence.

All of these can be addressed by EFT and some of the EFT statements that can be used for this purpose are:

“Even though I have no idea what I want, I choose to feel entitled to know.”

“Even though I have no vision of what I want, I choose to find the blocks that are preventing this vision.”

“Even though I have no vision of what I want, I choose to remember those incidents that robbed me of my right to know what I want.”

These are only a few of the EFT statements that might get you off to a good start.

The reasons why people don’t know what they want in life are extremely varied and almost all of them stem from early childhood experiences. Families can, for example, crush a child’s ability to know what they want by substituting their own wishes for those of the child.

For example:  “Oh you don’t want to play with those children they’re not very nice.” This confuses the child and makes it more difficult to know what they actually want.

Children are often told not to ask for things and they grow up believing that have to wait until something is offered before they can have it.  They are also told that asking for things is being greedy and selfish.

Then there’s the feeling of being undeserving.  I remember how many times it was drummed into me as a child that I didn’t deserve nice things or that I deserved punishment when really it should have been the other ways around.

Whatever the cause of the problem it can be addressed with EFT.  To help this process along you could use the following all encompassing statement.  “Even though I don’t know what I want, I choose to find a creative way to use EFT to solve this problem.”

This important choice could well bring things into focus for you.  It may take a bit of time to recognize your deepest wishes, because in order to stifle a child’s awareness of what they want it takes many repeated and often traumatic events to numb one of our deepest instincts.

Persistence however will pay off and if you encounter difficulties along the way you may want to arrange to get together to work with another EFT’er either in person or over the telephone as another person’s viewpoint can be enormously helpful.

The first step in knowing what you want may be using EFT for just that.

“Even though I don’t know what I want, I choose to see a future for me, for the first time.”

Use EFT to know what you want.

• Address your lack of clear goals by using an EFT statement such as, “Even though I don’t know what I want, I choose to find a creative way to use EFT to discover what that is.”
• If you have feelings of being un-deserving that were instilled into you as a child try using this EFT statement, “Even though I have no idea what I want, I choose to know that I deserve the very best in life.”
• Use EFT to clarify your goals often each time giving attention to any hindering emotions.  Tap these away to clear the road for your work on the goals themselves.

To contact me email me at christine@makingpositivechanges.co.uk or visit my website http://www.makingpositivechanges.co.uk to sign up for my free newsletter and pick up the over 60 page report on EFT.

Even though the method outlined here focuses on finding your ideal life partner it can be used for any complicated and major goal that has lots of different components in it.  Many goals have a number of different aspects such as finding the ideal job or the ideal home.

You can of course tap individually on each separate attribute of your ideal home, job or mate but the tapping could be long and arduous.  Trying to get everything into one EFT statement would confuse you and make each statement go on forever.

There is of course great benefit to be had by getting specific and listed ALL the desired benefits of the goal you want to achieve while tapping.  The tactic I am about introduce you to is an easy and beneficial way to do that without getting bogged down in the amount of desires.

First of all spend some time writing a list of all the attributes of your perfect partner.  Write down everything you can think of that is important to you in a relationship.  Make a list of what this person should look like, height, weight, dress sense, then list their likes, dislikes, religion, what sort of food they like, restaurants they like to eat in, how they like to spend their free time, family, friends, social life.  How do they feel about other people, handle disagreements, films, music and anything else that would matter to you.

If it’s a house you’re looking for or jobs, do exactly the same thing.  For a house write down location, roads, neighbors, local facilities, size of garden, noise, size of rooms, bedrooms, garden sheds, garage, friends for you children to play with and so on.  For a job, concentrate on work colleagues, superiors, company ethics, meaningfulness of the work, stress levels, salary, ease of access, parking, company perks and anything else you can think of.

Write as much as you can on day one and don’t worry about getting everything down as you can add to the list as the days go on.  You’ll find that as the days go on more things will come to you and you can add them accordingly.  Even if you think you don’t know what you want or can only think of one or two things, add them anyway and you’ll be surprised how, once the tapping starts, more ides will come to you.

Now, once the list is propagated, give it a name.  The partner list could be called, “My Perfect Partner,” or “My ideal Mate,” and both of these could be substituted by job and house.  Then, formulate and EFT Choices Statement using this title, thus:

“Even though there’s no-one in my life right now, I choose to find “My Ideal Mate”(from list) and have him feel the same way about me as I do about him.”

Or “Even though the person I’m dating right now isn’t the right man for me, I choose to find “My Ideal Mate”(from list) and have him feel as attracted to me as I do to him.”

Or “Even though I have no idea where I’m going to meet this person, I choose to have the Universe bring  “My Ideal Mate”(from list) to me now.”

Or “Even though I haven’t met him/her yet, I choose to know that he/she is out there looking for his/her ideal partner and I am that ideal partner.”

As you tap hold the piece of paper in front of you with all the attributes of your perfect partner on it and glance at it occasionally.  Your subconscious mind knows what you are referring to when you speak the words of the title you have given your list.

It’s ok to keep on adding to the list all the time and it is also good to read through it at least two or three times a week just to remind yourself of what is on it.

Love Christine

To contact me email me at christine@makingpositivechanges.co.uk or visit my website http://www.makingpositivechanges.co.uk to sign up for my free newsletter and pick up the over 60 page report on EFT.

Not knowing what you want in life is far more common than most people think.  I ask each of my clients what they want to achieve and where they want to get to and without exception they have no idea.

I guess the people who do know what they want don’t come to therapy as they are too busy achieving their goals.  Most people drift through life at the mercy of the winds of fate without realizing that without direction they may just go around and around in circles all of their lives.

Then when they find out that it is important to set goals they decide they simply have no idea what they want out of life.  Often though this is far from the truth, most people have secret desires and dreams but they repress them because they think they are impossible.

The first thing to recognize is that not having a vision indicates a blockage within you.  It’s a natural tendency to want certain things in life and to deeply enjoy getting them.  If you have no great or deep desires, no vision of what they might or how they might look, there are probably compelling reasons for their absence.

All of these can be addressed by EFT and some of the EFT statements that can be used for this purpose are:

“Even though I have no idea what I want, I choose to feel entitled to know.”

“Even though I have no vision of what I want, I choose to find the blocks that are preventing this vision.”

“Even though I have no vision of what I want, I choose to remember those incidents that robbed me of my right to know what I want.”

These are only a few of the EFT statements that might get you off to a good start.

The reasons why people don’t know what they want in life are extremely varied and almost all of them stem from early childhood experiences. Families can, for example, crush a child’s ability to know what they want by substituting their own wishes for those of the child.

For example:  “Oh you don’t want to play with those children they’re not very nice.” This confuses the child and makes it more difficult to know what they actually want.

Children are often told not to ask for things and they grow up believing that have to wait until something is offered before they can have it.  They are also told that asking for things is being greedy and selfish.

Then there’s the feeling of being undeserving.  I remember how many times it was drummed into me as a child that I didn’t deserve nice things or that I deserved punishment when really it should have been the other way around.

It really doesn’t matter where your block started or came from, whatever the cause of the problem it can be addressed with EFT.  To help this process along you could use the following all encompassing statement.  “Even though I don’t know what I want, I choose to find a creative way to use EFT to solve this problem.”

This important choice could well bring things into focus for you.  It may take a bit of time to recognize your deepest wishes, because in order to stifle a child’s awareness of what they want it takes many repeated and often traumatic events to numb one of our deepest instincts.

Persistence however will pay off and if you encounter difficulties along the way you might want to seek some help form an experienced EFT therapist.  I offer EFT by telephone and for more information visit my website http://www.makingpositivechanges.co.uk.  While you’re there don’t forget to sign up for the free newsletter and get your free 61 page report on EFT.

The first step in knowing what you want may be using EFT for just that.

“Even though I don’t know what I want, I choose to see a future for me, for the first time.”

Use EFT to know what you want.

• Address your lack of clear goals by using an EFT statement such as, “Even though I don’t know what I want, I choose to find a creative way to use EFT to discover what that is.”
• If you have feelings of being un-deserving that were instilled into you as a child try using this EFT statement, “Even though I have no idea what I want, I choose to know that I deserve the very best in life.”

To your success Christine

EFT can help both you and your baby to settle and get much needed rest.

The tapping is done entirely on you the parent as the baby is actually picking up it’s distress from its parents.  If you feel stressed every evening about whether or not your baby will settle you are actually transferring your stress onto your child who is then acting accordingly.)

The more stress you feel the more baby cries and so the vicious circle goes on.  Yet if you and your partner let go of your stress baby will sleep as if by magic and the whole circle of events comes to a close, opening up a new chapter in your child’s development.

A child who doesn’t sleep at night is developing a pattern which could go on for m,any years if not interuppted and EFT is the perfect easy, painless and drug-free way to do that.

If you don’t know how to apply EFT please go over to my website www.makingpositivechanges.co.uk and sign up for my newsletter to find out how and why it works and then use the tapping statements below as appropriate.

First of all rate, on a scale of 0 to 10 how stressful baby’s crying is making you feel and make a note of it.  Then…………..

Set-up Statement

**Even though my baby is crying and I’m totally stressed,  I deeply and completely love and accept myself and I deeply and completely love him/her.

Repeat three times while tapping on the Karate Chop point

Negative reminder phrase:…………..“baby crying stress.”

Now starting at the eyebrow point repeat negative reminder phrase at each pint while tapping:

EB…. “baby crying stress.”

SE……“baby crying stress.”

UE……“baby crying stress.”

UN……“baby crying stress.”

UL……“baby crying stress.”

CB……“baby crying stress.”

UA…..“baby crying stress.”

TH…….“baby crying stress.”

Now take another rating and see how much less stressed you feel.

Note:  If there is no difference in the rating or it’s gone up you may need to do the tapping at a time while baby isn’t crying when you can just imagine how stressed you feel.

After getting the rating down a little go on to another round of:

**Even though my baby is  still crying and I still have some stress,  I deeply and completely love and accept myself and I deeply and completely love him/her.

As before repeat three times while tapping on the Karate Chop point

Now starting at the eyebrow point repeat negative reminder phrase at each pint while tapping:

EB…. “This remaining stress”

SE……“This remaining stress”

UE……“This remaining stress”

UN……“This remaining stress”

UL……“This remaining stress”

CB……“This remaining stress”

UA…..“This remaining stress”

TH…….“This remaining stress”

Now take another rating and see how much less stressed you feel.

Here are some more set-up statements to use with your baby or child:

**Even though my baby won’t settle, I deeply and completely love and accept myself and I deeply and completely love him/her

**Even though she/he is driving me mad, I deeply and completely love and accept myself and I deeply and completely love him/her

**Even though my baby won’t eat his/her food, I deeply and completely love and accept myself and I deeply and completely love him/her

**Even though you (Baby) are being naughty, I deeply and completely love us both,

**Even though Emma won’t sit in her pushchair, I deeply love both of us.

**Even though junior won’t share his toys with the other children, I still love him and me.

**Even though Ruby has earache, I love the both of us.

*Even though Sam is always in trouble at school I love him, me and his teacher

**Even though I have this headache, I deeply and completely accept myself.

This is only a partial list, of course, because the possible issues that are addressable by EFT are endless.  Please note that you can change the affirmations.

Now here are some interesting points about the affirmation…**It doesn’t matter whether you believe the affirmation or not….just say it.  **It is better to say it with feeling and emphasis but saying it routinely will usually do the job.  **It is best to say it out loud but if you are in a social situation where you prefer to mutter it under your breath….or do it silently….then go ahead. It will probably be effective.

Have fun with these statments and if you would like more help with your baby issues or to book an appointment please call 01243 841498 or 07747 865982 or email me on  christine@makingpositivechanges.co.uk and I’ll be pleased to help.  Remember, one appointment can save both you and your child years of frustration.

To your peace and success, Christine

EFT as a Pattern Interupt

Why the EFT setup statement is not a negative affirmation

Sometimes I work with clients who are familiar with the use of positive affirmations to bring about positive change. And so they are also (rightly) wary of saying anything negative which might be programming their behaviour in a negative way.

These people often worry that the EFT setup statement is acting as a “negative affirmation” because it involves repeating the problem. (For example: “Even though I feel angry I deeply and completely accept myself”; or “Even though I can’t seem to make progress in my life, I deeply and completely accept myself”).

But it is my firm belief that stating the problem in the EFT setup statement is NOT having the effect of a negative affirmation.

The most convincing reason for thinking this, is the effect of EFT itself. Applying EFT causes the stated problem to go away – or at least be reduced. There has been no “affirmation” of the problem. But why should this be? Here’s my understanding of why repeating the problem within the EFT procedure is not like making a negative affirmation.

When we perform the EFT procedure, we do at least two things which negate or interrupt the negative.

Firstly, the setup statement linguistically overrides the problem with a positive statement (”I accept myself”). “Even though” is the same as “but”. I believe this has some effect even without tapping, as many people report intensity dropping just while doing the setup (although they will also be either rubbing the sore spot or tapping the side of the hand).

Secondly, and most importantly, we never simply say the setup statement or the reminder phrase by itself – we are also TAPPING at the same time. It is the tapping  that “undoes” the disruption around the issue. I understand it this way:

The central “discovery” of EFT (and other meridian therapies) is that “all negative emotions are caused by a disruption to the energy system”.

An original event (such as a trauma) produced a physical disruption to the energy system and that event becomes associated with the negative feeling that accompanied it (e.g fear or grief). This “programs” the system. So whenever the system is reminded of the trauma (by thinking about it), the program “runs”, re-creating the energy disruption and re-creating the negative feeling at the same time.

When you try to “run” the program by stating the problem, but you tap at the same time, the tapping acts as a pattern interupt.

The tapping interferes with the running of the old program, and pretty quickly, the energy system re-aligns and learns that the old program does not have to be run every time the trauma is remembered. And in fact, it can’t run – because the old association has been overwritten by the new one.

But you can’t “interrupt the program” in this way, unless you have started the program running to start with. That’s why you have to “tune in” to the problem by stating it, and tap at the same time, to stop it running.

In fact, it is actually useful to focus on and voice the problem with as much negativity and intensity as you can (i.e. really tune into it) while you are tapping (but without unduly upsetting yourself in the process, which isn’t necessary).

Persistence will pay off and if you encounter difficulties along the way you might want to seek some help form an experienced EFT therapist.  I offer EFT by telephone and for more information visit my website http://www.makingpositivechanges.co.uk.  While you’re there don’t forget to sign up for the free newsletter and get your free 61 page report on EFT

Attracting Abundance with EFT

Everything is about vibration.

• When you think about money, what is your vibration about it?
• When you think about your body, how are you vibrating?
• When you think about finding the perfect partner, how are you vibrating?

EFT is a tool that enables you to change your vibrations so that you vibrate to success in any area.

Clearing blocks to success.

FEAR OF SUCCESS:

“Even though I’m afraid to become too successful, I deeply and completely accept and appreciate the part of me that is trying to keep me safe.”

Negative phrase: repeat on every point.  “I’m afraid of becoming successful.”

Positive phrases:

(Eyebrow) I can feel safe becoming successful…

(Side of eye) I appreciate the success I have….

(Under eye) I enjoy abundance…

(Under nose) I choose to feel safe and successful now….

(Chin Point) I choose to feel safe and successful right now…

(Collarbone) I appreciate the success I already enjoy…

(Under arm) I enjoy abundance and plenty…

(Top of Head) I choose to feel safe and successful right now….

SABOTAGE:

“Even though I keep sabotaging myself I deeply and completely love and accept myself anyway.”

Negative phrase: repeat on every point.  “I keep sabotaging myself.”

Positive phrases:

(Eyebrow) I choose to accept how successful I am…

(Side of eye) I am releasing the need to sabotage myself….

(Under eye) I love feeling free of these old patterns…

(Under nose) I choose to embrace my success now….

(Chin Point) I choose to accept how successful I am…

(Collarbone) I’m happy I’ve released my sabotage habit…

(Under arm) I love feeling free of sabotage…

(Top of Head) I choose to own my success right now….

BLOCKING SUCCESS:

“Even though I can’t get out of my own way, I choose to release this conflict.”

Negative phrase: repeat at every point. “I can’t get out of my own way.”

Positive Phrases………….

(Eyebrow) I love knowing I resolved this conflict…

(Side of eye) I have successfully got out of my own way…………

(Under eye) I love being successful….

(Under nose) I intend to embrace the success that’s mine…

(Chin Point) I successfully resolved this conflict….

(Collarbone) I finally got out of my own way…

(Under arm) I love being successful…

(Top of Head) I intend to embrace all the success I deserve….

GUILT ABOUT HAVING MORE THAN OTHERS:

“Even though I feel guilty because I have more than others, I choose to feel good about myself.”

Negative phrases: repeat at every point. “I feel guilty because I have more than others.”

Positive Phrases………….

(Eyebrow) I choose to feel good about all that I have…

(Side of eye) I love feeling safe with what I have earned…………

(Under eye) I love feeling free of the guilt….

(Under nose) It’s so nice to appreciate all that I have…

(Chin Point) I’m happy to release the guilt….

(Collarbone) I finally feel safe with earning lots…

(Under arm) I love feeling free to earn a lot of money…

(Top of Head) I appreciate all that I have……….

GUILT ABOUT WANTING MORE THAN OTHERS:

“Even though I feel guilty because I want more….maybe I’m selfish….I choose to know that the Universe provides enough for everyone.”

Negative phrases: repeat at every point. “I feel guilty because I want more.”

Positive Phrases………….

(Eyebrow) I choose to know that living without helps no-one…

(Side of eye) I choose to remember that the Universe provides enough for everyone…………

(Under eye) I choose to remember that my success helps others to succeed….

(Under nose) I choose to pave the way for others success…

(Chin Point) I feel free to become successful….

(Collarbone) I choose to know that I can use my new success to help others…

(Under arm) I choose to be generous…

(Top of Head) I am grateful for all my desires……….

GUILT ABOUT ADVANTAGES:

“Even though I feel guilty because of the advantages I have, I choose to resolve this guilt right now.”

Negative phrases: repeat at every point. “I feel guilty because of my advantages.”

Positive Phrases………….

(Eyebrow) I accept all of me…

(Side of eye) I love appreciating who I am…………

(Under eye) I appreciate my entire life….

(Under nose) I love feeling free of my conflicts…

(Chin Point) I embrace my advantages….

(Collarbone) I resolve this guilt right now…

(Under arm) I choose to accept myself just as I am…

(Top of Head) I am grateful for who I am……….

FEAR OF REJECTION:

“Even though I’m afraid they’ll reject me if I become successful, I choose to know that they love me for who I am.”

Negative phrases: repeat at every point. “I’m afraid they might reject me.”

Positive Phrases………….

(Eyebrow) I choose to feel acceptable right now…

(Side of eye) I love accepting my success…………

(Under eye) I choose to release my need for their approval…

(Under nose) I appreciate who I am…

(Chin Point) I choose to feel acceptable inside myself….

(Collarbone) I love accepting my success even if they don’t…

(Under arm) I choose to release my need for their approval…

(Top of Head) I appreciate how worth I am……….

More beliefs to tap on:

REJECTING OTHERS:  I might reject them.

FEAR OF ENVY:  They might envy me.

STANDING OUT:  I’m afraid to stand out.

HUMILIATION: Last time I stood out I was humiliated.

FITTING IN: I might not fit in any more.

WHAT IF THEY THINK I’M GREEDY: My friends and family might think I’m greedy.

JELOUSY: They might be jealous of me.

INADEQUACY:  I feel inadequate around people with money.

Maybe you are stuck in a particular comfort zone and it feels uncomfortable to step out of it.

NEGATIVE BELIEFS:

“Even though I don’t believe I can make more money, I choose to release this block.”

Negative phrases: repeat at every point. “I don’t believe I can make more money.”

Positive Phrases………….

(Eyebrow) My belief has changed…

(Side of eye) I choose to believe I can make more money…………

(Under eye) I love feeling good earning a higher salary…

(Under nose) I love knowing I resolved this conflict…

(Chin Point) I’m already making more money….

(Collarbone) I feel so good now that I’ve resolved this conflict…

(Under arm) I choose to know I’m earning more money even though I don’t know how this is going to happen…

(Top of Head) I choose to accept earning a higher salary……….

FEAR OF EARNING MORE:

“Even though I’m afraid to earn more money, I choose to release this block.”

Negative phrases: repeat at every point. “I’m afraid to earn more money.”

Positive Phrases………….

(Eyebrow) I feel safe earning more money

(Side of eye) I choose to know its right for me…………

(Under eye) I choose to trust myself…..

(Under nose) I choose to feel good earning more money…

(Chin Point) I know its right to make more….

(Collarbone) I feel so good now that I’ve resolved this conflict…

(Under arm) I choose to trust myself…

(Top of Head) I choose to feel good about earning more money…

COMFORT ZONE:  “Even though I’m limited by my comfort zone, I choose to step out right now.”

DESERVING:  “Even though I think I don’t deserve to have more money, I choose to feel deserving right now.”

NOT ENOUGH/SHORTAGES: Even though there’s not enough for everyone, I choose to believe in plenty.”,

MONEY WORRIES:  Even though I believe I should worry about money, I choose to be relaxed about money.”

RUNNING OUT:  Even though I believe money can run out, I choose to believe know in its unlimited supply.”

THERE WILL NEVER BE ENOUGH: Even though I believe there’s never enough, I choose to feel abundant right now.”

I DON’T BELIEVE IN PROSPERITY: Even though there was never enough for us, I choose to believe in prosperity today.”

BELIEF IN SCARCITY:  Even though I inherited this belief in scarcity from my family, I choose to release it right now.”

BLOCKS TO RECEIVING:  Even though I have this block to receiving, I choose to release it right now.”

Activating ‘The Law of Attraction’

MONEY ANXIETY: Even though I have this anxiety around money, I choose to be relaxed.”

MONEY DOESN’T COME EASILY:  Even though they told me money doesn’t come easily, I choose to release this fear right now.”

I CAN’T BE HAPPY UNTIL: Even though I believe I can’t be happy until I’m rich, I choose happiness right now.”

I CAN’T FEEL GOOD UNTIL: Even though I believe I can’t feel good until I’m rich, I choose to feel good right now.”

BELIEF IN POVERTY: Even though I have an inherited belief in poverty I choose to release it right now.”

YES, BUT:  Even though I’m not rich yet, I choose to expect abundance in my life.

NEXT STEP:

After doing a selection of choices start on affirmations:

Say out loud, “Abundance is coming into my life.”  Rate how true that sounds for you on a scale of 1 – 10 with 1 being, not true at all and 10 being absolutely true.  With a little practice you will be able to tell how true each statement sounds when you say it.

Then tap around the points without doing the set-up and starting with the eyebrow point. It is possible to repeat the same phrase over and over and it is also ok to vary the statements on each tapping point.  An example of this would be:

(Eyebrow) Abundance is coming into my life…..

(Side of eye) I feel it coming…………

(Under eye) I choose to believe it’s on its way…..

(Under nose) I choose to feel it coming…

(Chin Point) Even though I have no idea how its going to come I choose to believe it is….

(Collarbone) I choose to believe in abundance…

(Under arm) Abundance is coming into my life…..

(Top of Head) I choose to attract abundance…

After several rounds repeat the statement “Abundance is coming into my life,” again and see if your score has gone higher.  If it hasn’t you will have heard yourself saying some ‘yes buts’ and that’s great because now you know where your blockages are.  Stop at this point and tap on the ‘yes buts’ and then go back to the affirmations.

If the statement feels truer carry on until you get to the point where you feel positive and certain this is going to happen.  Remember if something feels true to you it will happen.

Keep on going, tapping away the old beliefs and tapping in the new choices every day and watch out for prosperity and abundance.

Gratitude:

You may have heard that whatever you focus on you get more of.  Focusing on the abundance that is already appearing in your life is one great way of attracting even more.  Add this to the feeling of ‘gratitude’ which is one of the most attracting feelings in the Universe and you can attract more and more things to be grateful for.

The trouble is that we often pay little attention to the small things the Universe gives us, waiting for the biggie to turn up but as I’m sure you already know, appreciating others for little things makes them want to do more for us.  The Universe work in the same way, when you start to notice and appreciate the little things that come your way ‘IT’ will give you more.

One way to do this is to start a Gratitude journal.  Get yourself a notebook especially for this task and every evening take five minutes or so and write down all the things you have received that day and be grateful for them.  When you first start your journal you have very little to write in it but as the days go on your list will grow.  Sometimes you’ll amaze yourself at how much you received which would have escaped your attention before you started journaling.

Here’s a page from my gratitude journal:

Thursday 2^nd July:

Thank you Universe, I’m so grateful for:  Breakfast in bed,  The perfect parking space, The use of Linda’s house, Linda’s and Pat’s time, given freely, My lunch and loads of coffee from Linda, My brother-in-law grouting my bathroom free, Two clothes containers and an ironing board cover donated by my sister.  Help to clear the weeds in my garden, it looks so tidy, My friend taking away all the garden rubbish, Evening meal donated and made by a friend, delicious cake and coffee at my card reading class in the evening and a friend showing me how to turn a book into a PDF document.

Wow, what a day, it was full of abundance, but if I hadn’t been journaling I probably would have missed all of this.

If you’re serious about wanting abundance start your gratitude journal today.

To Your Success,

Christine

Persistence will pay off and if you encounter difficulties along the way you might want to seek some help form an experienced EFT therapist.  I offer EFT by telephone and for more information visit my website http://www.makingpositivechanges.co.uk.  While you’re there don’t forget to sign up for the free newsletter and get your free 61 page report on EFT

As each day goes by we tend to brush aside those small things we enjoy and spend more time focused on the things that annoy us.

Tapping in the positive things that happen to us can really change the day we have and lead to better and more enjoyable times.

Remember, whatever we focus on grows and by doing this one little act we

can change our lives for the better.

If you notice something that makes you smile, relax, laugh or receive any benefit do one round of EFT and tap it in.

No need to do the set up phrase on this one either.  Just start by tapping on the eyebrow point and do one round while repeating,  “The baby’s beautiful smile,” or, “The cat’s purr,”

or, “The sound of the rain on the roof,” or even, “The beautiful sunset.”

It literally only takes a minute to tap the memory in and then you’ll notice how easy it is to recall it moment by moment.

Do this for a couple of days and those people around you will start asking, “What’s up with you then?  You look happy.”

lots of best wishes Christine

Persistence will pay off and if you encounter difficulties along the way you might want to seek some help form an experienced EFT therapist.  I offer EFT by telephone and for more information visit my website http://www.makingpositivechanges.co.uk.  While you’re there don’t forget to sign up for the free newsletter and get your free 61 page report on EFT

Thanks to one of my students Sharon for sending me the following link to the article on EFT and chocolate addiction from the Sun newspaper.

http://www.thesun.co.uk/sol/homepage/features/2450163/Tap-on-head-cured-my-chocolate-addiction.html

Click on the link to read the article or cut and paste it into your browser.

Great stuff!

Persistence in using EFT generally pays off and if you encounter difficulties along the way you might want to seek some help form an experienced EFT therapist.  I offer EFT by telephone and for more information visit my website http://www.makingpositivechanges.co.uk.  While you’re there don’t forget to sign up for the free newsletter and get your free 61 page report on EFT

The Choices Method

The choices method is a variant of EFT in which the client gets to choose a different outcome to the one being experienced.  The Universe is composed of energy, in fact energy in all it’s myriad forms is all there is.  Every seeming solid object is in fact mostly energy, including ourselves.

When we are in a negative situation, or mindset it sets up a stress within us, in EFT terms our energy system becomes disrupted.  Whenever a stress builds up within us it seeks to be resolved and as this stress is a from of energy, negative energy, it will do what all energy does.  It will seek to dissipate itself and to do this it will seek the path of least resistance.

Energy always seeks the path of least resistance.  Think of a river.  A river runs towards the sea via the path of least resistance.  It runs along the riverbed.  It never jumps out of its normal path and decides to run down another course because the easiest way for it to go is along the path it is already on.  Wind, another form of energy, will not force itself in and through buildings, it will go around them, again the path of least resistance.  Electricity too will follow the same kind of path, even if that path is up your arm.

This phenomenon is Universal, it is natural, it is what energy does.  Everything in nature follows the same rules.  Therefore our stress obeys this natural law too.  When you feel hungry it sets up a stress within, which then seeks to resolve itself and eating releases the stress.  Someone who wants to smoke sets up a stress which is then released through having a cigarette.

To take an example from ordinary conversation, if I ask you a question such as, ‘How are you?”  the structure of the question sets up a tension and the answer to the question resolves that tension.  This is known as an antecedent-consequential phrase; it is the most natural phrasing known in language.

Tension strives for resolution and often causes conflict within us.  Imagine for a moment the person who wants to lose weight.  Thinking about the situation, (being overweight) causes tension and not eating resolves that tension.  However, being hungry causes tension and eating resolves it.  This means that the overweight person is in a double bind.  The tension from not wanting to eat is striving to take the path of least resistance but so is the tension from being hungry.

This is why you may have often found yourself alternating between being good and resisting food and then when the opposite tension has built up to the point where it must be resolved all resolve goes out of the window and you find yourself eating too much again.

Take another situation like public speaking.  Julie had to make presentations at work, but she was terrified every single time she had to do them.  She would shake and sweat at the very thought.  She dare not however refuse to do them as she believed her  job would be at stake.  This left her in a double bind situation.  When  she thought about making presentations she imagined forgetting what she had to say, stuttering and not being able to get the words out or making a fool of herself.  This set up tension and because the tension was seeking resolution she desperately didn’t want to turn up.

When she thought about not turning up however she imagined losing her job, setting up more tension.  This tension also couldn’t be resolved and so because she had all this tension within which was seeking resolution she did what she always did, she got home from work and ate and drank.  The tension (energy) was taking the path of least resistance, which in her case was eating and drinking too much.  Like the river it was taking the well worn path it always had.

There is a way however to change the flow of this energy.  It is possible to change the flow of a river by changing it’s structure.  Engineers can come in and dig another path for the river to flow down.  They can then dam the old well worn river bed and once this is done the river will then flow down the new pathway.  It will still be following the path of least resistance only now the path is changed.  We can do this using the choices method.

The Choices Protocol

The protocol for the EFT Choices technique is known as the “Choices Trio” because it contains three distinct components – three rounds of EFT using Choices.  The intensity level is only assessed after all three rounds.

Preliminary Steps

Before commencing EFT. Obtain an initial intensity rating for the problem you are going to work on and then proceed as follows:

• Identify the negative cognition (thought, attitude, feeling, etc) you want to get rid of.
• Formulate a Choice that is roughly the opposite of this negative cognition, an antidote to it.  For example,” I choose to feel completely at ease when flying,” would be an appropriate choice for the negative cognition, “I’m afraid of flying.”

• Combine the negative with the positive Choice to use in the choices Set-up.  for example, “Even though I am afraid of flying, I choose to feel completely at ease when flying.”
• Tap on the Karate Chop point while repeating this phrase three times.

Follow this by the Choices Trio as follows:

1. Using the short cut do one complete round of EFT using the negative part of the phrase as a reminder only.  For example, “I’m afraid of flying.”
2. Follow immediately by one complete round using the choice, Example, “I choose to feel at ease when flying.
3. Follow with one alternate round, starting with the negative phrase on the first point and ending with a positive Choices phrase.
4. Check intensity rating and if needed follow with another round.

Another point worth mentioning here is that it is very good to add extra positive words or phrases within the choices method.  An example would be, “Even though I am scared of making a fool of myself when I make my presentation, I choose to be amazed at how well I perform.” “Even though I ate too much this evening, I choose to surprise myself by how easy it is to get back on track.”  “Even though I am petrified at the thought of confronting my boss, I choose to feel courageous when I meet him.”

What happens is this.  The tapping balances out the energy system so the negative charge, the fear, starts to dissipate.  It does what all energy does when it builds up and takes the path of least resistance.  This time however you have built a new path, it leads straight to the new choice.  Whenever you think about the situation in the future, any negative charge immediately takes the path of least resistance which is now the Choice you have made.

If it sounds too good to be true, I suggest trying it and testing the results.  I have seen it work beautifully in so many cases that I no longer have any doubts.  Using Choices utilises the path of least resistance inherent in all of nature.  And it uses it simply and easily.

Happiness and success Christine

For more information visit my website http://www.makingpositivechanges.co.uk.  While you’re there don’t forget to sign up for the free newsletter and get your free 61 page report on EFT