EFT can help both you and your baby to settle and get much needed rest.

The tapping is done entirely on you the parent as the baby is actually picking up it’s distress from its parents.  If you feel stressed every evening about whether or not your baby will settle you are actually transferring your stress onto your child who is then acting accordingly.)

The more stress you feel the more baby cries and so the vicious circle goes on.  Yet if you and your partner let go of your stress baby will sleep as if by magic and the whole circle of events comes to a close, opening up a new chapter in your child’s development.

A child who doesn’t sleep at night is developing a pattern which could go on for m,any years if not interuppted and EFT is the perfect easy, painless and drug-free way to do that.

If you don’t know how to apply EFT please go over to my website www.makingpositivechanges.co.uk and sign up for my newsletter to find out how and why it works and then use the tapping statements below as appropriate.

First of all rate, on a scale of 0 to 10 how stressful baby’s crying is making you feel and make a note of it.  Then…………..

Set-up Statement

**Even though my baby is crying and I’m totally stressed,  I deeply and completely love and accept myself and I deeply and completely love him/her.

Repeat three times while tapping on the Karate Chop point

Negative reminder phrase:…………..“baby crying stress.”

Now starting at the eyebrow point repeat negative reminder phrase at each pint while tapping:

EB…. “baby crying stress.”

SE……“baby crying stress.”

UE……“baby crying stress.”

UN……“baby crying stress.”

UL……“baby crying stress.”

CB……“baby crying stress.”

UA…..“baby crying stress.”

TH…….“baby crying stress.”

Now take another rating and see how much less stressed you feel.

Note:  If there is no difference in the rating or it’s gone up you may need to do the tapping at a time while baby isn’t crying when you can just imagine how stressed you feel.

After getting the rating down a little go on to another round of:

**Even though my baby is  still crying and I still have some stress,  I deeply and completely love and accept myself and I deeply and completely love him/her.

As before repeat three times while tapping on the Karate Chop point

Now starting at the eyebrow point repeat negative reminder phrase at each pint while tapping:

EB…. “This remaining stress”

SE……“This remaining stress”

UE……“This remaining stress”

UN……“This remaining stress”

UL……“This remaining stress”

CB……“This remaining stress”

UA…..“This remaining stress”

TH…….“This remaining stress”

Now take another rating and see how much less stressed you feel.

Here are some more set-up statements to use with your baby or child:

**Even though my baby won’t settle, I deeply and completely love and accept myself and I deeply and completely love him/her

**Even though she/he is driving me mad, I deeply and completely love and accept myself and I deeply and completely love him/her

**Even though my baby won’t eat his/her food, I deeply and completely love and accept myself and I deeply and completely love him/her

**Even though you (Baby) are being naughty, I deeply and completely love us both,

**Even though Emma won’t sit in her pushchair, I deeply love both of us.

**Even though junior won’t share his toys with the other children, I still love him and me.

**Even though Ruby has earache, I love the both of us.

*Even though Sam is always in trouble at school I love him, me and his teacher

**Even though I have this headache, I deeply and completely accept myself.

This is only a partial list, of course, because the possible issues that are addressable by EFT are endless.  Please note that you can change the affirmations.

Now here are some interesting points about the affirmation…**It doesn’t matter whether you believe the affirmation or not….just say it.  **It is better to say it with feeling and emphasis but saying it routinely will usually do the job.  **It is best to say it out loud but if you are in a social situation where you prefer to mutter it under your breath….or do it silently….then go ahead. It will probably be effective.

Have fun with these statments and if you would like more help with your baby issues or to book an appointment please call 01243 841498 or 07747 865982 or email me on  christine@makingpositivechanges.co.uk and I’ll be pleased to help.  Remember, one appointment can save both you and your child years of frustration.

To your peace and success, Christine

EFT as a Pattern Interupt

Why the EFT setup statement is not a negative affirmation

Sometimes I work with clients who are familiar with the use of positive affirmations to bring about positive change. And so they are also (rightly) wary of saying anything negative which might be programming their behaviour in a negative way.

These people often worry that the EFT setup statement is acting as a “negative affirmation” because it involves repeating the problem. (For example: “Even though I feel angry I deeply and completely accept myself”; or “Even though I can’t seem to make progress in my life, I deeply and completely accept myself”).

But it is my firm belief that stating the problem in the EFT setup statement is NOT having the effect of a negative affirmation.

The most convincing reason for thinking this, is the effect of EFT itself. Applying EFT causes the stated problem to go away – or at least be reduced. There has been no “affirmation” of the problem. But why should this be? Here’s my understanding of why repeating the problem within the EFT procedure is not like making a negative affirmation.

When we perform the EFT procedure, we do at least two things which negate or interrupt the negative.

Firstly, the setup statement linguistically overrides the problem with a positive statement (”I accept myself”). “Even though” is the same as “but”. I believe this has some effect even without tapping, as many people report intensity dropping just while doing the setup (although they will also be either rubbing the sore spot or tapping the side of the hand).

Secondly, and most importantly, we never simply say the setup statement or the reminder phrase by itself – we are also TAPPING at the same time. It is the tapping  that “undoes” the disruption around the issue. I understand it this way:

The central “discovery” of EFT (and other meridian therapies) is that “all negative emotions are caused by a disruption to the energy system”.

An original event (such as a trauma) produced a physical disruption to the energy system and that event becomes associated with the negative feeling that accompanied it (e.g fear or grief). This “programs” the system. So whenever the system is reminded of the trauma (by thinking about it), the program “runs”, re-creating the energy disruption and re-creating the negative feeling at the same time.

When you try to “run” the program by stating the problem, but you tap at the same time, the tapping acts as a pattern interupt.

The tapping interferes with the running of the old program, and pretty quickly, the energy system re-aligns and learns that the old program does not have to be run every time the trauma is remembered. And in fact, it can’t run – because the old association has been overwritten by the new one.

But you can’t “interrupt the program” in this way, unless you have started the program running to start with. That’s why you have to “tune in” to the problem by stating it, and tap at the same time, to stop it running.

In fact, it is actually useful to focus on and voice the problem with as much negativity and intensity as you can (i.e. really tune into it) while you are tapping (but without unduly upsetting yourself in the process, which isn’t necessary).

Persistence will pay off and if you encounter difficulties along the way you might want to seek some help form an experienced EFT therapist.  I offer EFT by telephone and for more information visit my website http://www.makingpositivechanges.co.uk.  While you’re there don’t forget to sign up for the free newsletter and get your free 61 page report on EFT

Attracting Abundance with EFT

Everything is about vibration.

• When you think about money, what is your vibration about it?
• When you think about your body, how are you vibrating?
• When you think about finding the perfect partner, how are you vibrating?

EFT is a tool that enables you to change your vibrations so that you vibrate to success in any area.

Clearing blocks to success.

FEAR OF SUCCESS:

“Even though I’m afraid to become too successful, I deeply and completely accept and appreciate the part of me that is trying to keep me safe.”

Negative phrase: repeat on every point.  “I’m afraid of becoming successful.”

Positive phrases:

(Eyebrow) I can feel safe becoming successful…

(Side of eye) I appreciate the success I have….

(Under eye) I enjoy abundance…

(Under nose) I choose to feel safe and successful now….

(Chin Point) I choose to feel safe and successful right now…

(Collarbone) I appreciate the success I already enjoy…

(Under arm) I enjoy abundance and plenty…

(Top of Head) I choose to feel safe and successful right now….

SABOTAGE:

“Even though I keep sabotaging myself I deeply and completely love and accept myself anyway.”

Negative phrase: repeat on every point.  “I keep sabotaging myself.”

Positive phrases:

(Eyebrow) I choose to accept how successful I am…

(Side of eye) I am releasing the need to sabotage myself….

(Under eye) I love feeling free of these old patterns…

(Under nose) I choose to embrace my success now….

(Chin Point) I choose to accept how successful I am…

(Collarbone) I’m happy I’ve released my sabotage habit…

(Under arm) I love feeling free of sabotage…

(Top of Head) I choose to own my success right now….

BLOCKING SUCCESS:

“Even though I can’t get out of my own way, I choose to release this conflict.”

Negative phrase: repeat at every point. “I can’t get out of my own way.”

Positive Phrases………….

(Eyebrow) I love knowing I resolved this conflict…

(Side of eye) I have successfully got out of my own way…………

(Under eye) I love being successful….

(Under nose) I intend to embrace the success that’s mine…

(Chin Point) I successfully resolved this conflict….

(Collarbone) I finally got out of my own way…

(Under arm) I love being successful…

(Top of Head) I intend to embrace all the success I deserve….

GUILT ABOUT HAVING MORE THAN OTHERS:

“Even though I feel guilty because I have more than others, I choose to feel good about myself.”

Negative phrases: repeat at every point. “I feel guilty because I have more than others.”

Positive Phrases………….

(Eyebrow) I choose to feel good about all that I have…

(Side of eye) I love feeling safe with what I have earned…………

(Under eye) I love feeling free of the guilt….

(Under nose) It’s so nice to appreciate all that I have…

(Chin Point) I’m happy to release the guilt….

(Collarbone) I finally feel safe with earning lots…

(Under arm) I love feeling free to earn a lot of money…

(Top of Head) I appreciate all that I have……….

GUILT ABOUT WANTING MORE THAN OTHERS:

“Even though I feel guilty because I want more….maybe I’m selfish….I choose to know that the Universe provides enough for everyone.”

Negative phrases: repeat at every point. “I feel guilty because I want more.”

Positive Phrases………….

(Eyebrow) I choose to know that living without helps no-one…

(Side of eye) I choose to remember that the Universe provides enough for everyone…………

(Under eye) I choose to remember that my success helps others to succeed….

(Under nose) I choose to pave the way for others success…

(Chin Point) I feel free to become successful….

(Collarbone) I choose to know that I can use my new success to help others…

(Under arm) I choose to be generous…

(Top of Head) I am grateful for all my desires……….

GUILT ABOUT ADVANTAGES:

“Even though I feel guilty because of the advantages I have, I choose to resolve this guilt right now.”

Negative phrases: repeat at every point. “I feel guilty because of my advantages.”

Positive Phrases………….

(Eyebrow) I accept all of me…

(Side of eye) I love appreciating who I am…………

(Under eye) I appreciate my entire life….

(Under nose) I love feeling free of my conflicts…

(Chin Point) I embrace my advantages….

(Collarbone) I resolve this guilt right now…

(Under arm) I choose to accept myself just as I am…

(Top of Head) I am grateful for who I am……….

FEAR OF REJECTION:

“Even though I’m afraid they’ll reject me if I become successful, I choose to know that they love me for who I am.”

Negative phrases: repeat at every point. “I’m afraid they might reject me.”

Positive Phrases………….

(Eyebrow) I choose to feel acceptable right now…

(Side of eye) I love accepting my success…………

(Under eye) I choose to release my need for their approval…

(Under nose) I appreciate who I am…

(Chin Point) I choose to feel acceptable inside myself….

(Collarbone) I love accepting my success even if they don’t…

(Under arm) I choose to release my need for their approval…

(Top of Head) I appreciate how worth I am……….

More beliefs to tap on:

REJECTING OTHERS:  I might reject them.

FEAR OF ENVY:  They might envy me.

STANDING OUT:  I’m afraid to stand out.

HUMILIATION: Last time I stood out I was humiliated.

FITTING IN: I might not fit in any more.

WHAT IF THEY THINK I’M GREEDY: My friends and family might think I’m greedy.

JELOUSY: They might be jealous of me.

INADEQUACY:  I feel inadequate around people with money.

Maybe you are stuck in a particular comfort zone and it feels uncomfortable to step out of it.

NEGATIVE BELIEFS:

“Even though I don’t believe I can make more money, I choose to release this block.”

Negative phrases: repeat at every point. “I don’t believe I can make more money.”

Positive Phrases………….

(Eyebrow) My belief has changed…

(Side of eye) I choose to believe I can make more money…………

(Under eye) I love feeling good earning a higher salary…

(Under nose) I love knowing I resolved this conflict…

(Chin Point) I’m already making more money….

(Collarbone) I feel so good now that I’ve resolved this conflict…

(Under arm) I choose to know I’m earning more money even though I don’t know how this is going to happen…

(Top of Head) I choose to accept earning a higher salary……….

FEAR OF EARNING MORE:

“Even though I’m afraid to earn more money, I choose to release this block.”

Negative phrases: repeat at every point. “I’m afraid to earn more money.”

Positive Phrases………….

(Eyebrow) I feel safe earning more money

(Side of eye) I choose to know its right for me…………

(Under eye) I choose to trust myself…..

(Under nose) I choose to feel good earning more money…

(Chin Point) I know its right to make more….

(Collarbone) I feel so good now that I’ve resolved this conflict…

(Under arm) I choose to trust myself…

(Top of Head) I choose to feel good about earning more money…

COMFORT ZONE:  “Even though I’m limited by my comfort zone, I choose to step out right now.”

DESERVING:  “Even though I think I don’t deserve to have more money, I choose to feel deserving right now.”

NOT ENOUGH/SHORTAGES: Even though there’s not enough for everyone, I choose to believe in plenty.”,

MONEY WORRIES:  Even though I believe I should worry about money, I choose to be relaxed about money.”

RUNNING OUT:  Even though I believe money can run out, I choose to believe know in its unlimited supply.”

THERE WILL NEVER BE ENOUGH: Even though I believe there’s never enough, I choose to feel abundant right now.”

I DON’T BELIEVE IN PROSPERITY: Even though there was never enough for us, I choose to believe in prosperity today.”

BELIEF IN SCARCITY:  Even though I inherited this belief in scarcity from my family, I choose to release it right now.”

BLOCKS TO RECEIVING:  Even though I have this block to receiving, I choose to release it right now.”

Activating ‘The Law of Attraction’

MONEY ANXIETY: Even though I have this anxiety around money, I choose to be relaxed.”

MONEY DOESN’T COME EASILY:  Even though they told me money doesn’t come easily, I choose to release this fear right now.”

I CAN’T BE HAPPY UNTIL: Even though I believe I can’t be happy until I’m rich, I choose happiness right now.”

I CAN’T FEEL GOOD UNTIL: Even though I believe I can’t feel good until I’m rich, I choose to feel good right now.”

BELIEF IN POVERTY: Even though I have an inherited belief in poverty I choose to release it right now.”

YES, BUT:  Even though I’m not rich yet, I choose to expect abundance in my life.

NEXT STEP:

After doing a selection of choices start on affirmations:

Say out loud, “Abundance is coming into my life.”  Rate how true that sounds for you on a scale of 1 – 10 with 1 being, not true at all and 10 being absolutely true.  With a little practice you will be able to tell how true each statement sounds when you say it.

Then tap around the points without doing the set-up and starting with the eyebrow point. It is possible to repeat the same phrase over and over and it is also ok to vary the statements on each tapping point.  An example of this would be:

(Eyebrow) Abundance is coming into my life…..

(Side of eye) I feel it coming…………

(Under eye) I choose to believe it’s on its way…..

(Under nose) I choose to feel it coming…

(Chin Point) Even though I have no idea how its going to come I choose to believe it is….

(Collarbone) I choose to believe in abundance…

(Under arm) Abundance is coming into my life…..

(Top of Head) I choose to attract abundance…

After several rounds repeat the statement “Abundance is coming into my life,” again and see if your score has gone higher.  If it hasn’t you will have heard yourself saying some ‘yes buts’ and that’s great because now you know where your blockages are.  Stop at this point and tap on the ‘yes buts’ and then go back to the affirmations.

If the statement feels truer carry on until you get to the point where you feel positive and certain this is going to happen.  Remember if something feels true to you it will happen.

Keep on going, tapping away the old beliefs and tapping in the new choices every day and watch out for prosperity and abundance.

Gratitude:

You may have heard that whatever you focus on you get more of.  Focusing on the abundance that is already appearing in your life is one great way of attracting even more.  Add this to the feeling of ‘gratitude’ which is one of the most attracting feelings in the Universe and you can attract more and more things to be grateful for.

The trouble is that we often pay little attention to the small things the Universe gives us, waiting for the biggie to turn up but as I’m sure you already know, appreciating others for little things makes them want to do more for us.  The Universe work in the same way, when you start to notice and appreciate the little things that come your way ‘IT’ will give you more.

One way to do this is to start a Gratitude journal.  Get yourself a notebook especially for this task and every evening take five minutes or so and write down all the things you have received that day and be grateful for them.  When you first start your journal you have very little to write in it but as the days go on your list will grow.  Sometimes you’ll amaze yourself at how much you received which would have escaped your attention before you started journaling.

Here’s a page from my gratitude journal:

Thursday 2^nd July:

Thank you Universe, I’m so grateful for:  Breakfast in bed,  The perfect parking space, The use of Linda’s house, Linda’s and Pat’s time, given freely, My lunch and loads of coffee from Linda, My brother-in-law grouting my bathroom free, Two clothes containers and an ironing board cover donated by my sister.  Help to clear the weeds in my garden, it looks so tidy, My friend taking away all the garden rubbish, Evening meal donated and made by a friend, delicious cake and coffee at my card reading class in the evening and a friend showing me how to turn a book into a PDF document.

Wow, what a day, it was full of abundance, but if I hadn’t been journaling I probably would have missed all of this.

If you’re serious about wanting abundance start your gratitude journal today.

To Your Success,

Christine

Persistence will pay off and if you encounter difficulties along the way you might want to seek some help form an experienced EFT therapist.  I offer EFT by telephone and for more information visit my website http://www.makingpositivechanges.co.uk.  While you’re there don’t forget to sign up for the free newsletter and get your free 61 page report on EFT

As each day goes by we tend to brush aside those small things we enjoy and spend more time focused on the things that annoy us.

Tapping in the positive things that happen to us can really change the day we have and lead to better and more enjoyable times.

Remember, whatever we focus on grows and by doing this one little act we

can change our lives for the better.

If you notice something that makes you smile, relax, laugh or receive any benefit do one round of EFT and tap it in.

No need to do the set up phrase on this one either.  Just start by tapping on the eyebrow point and do one round while repeating,  “The baby’s beautiful smile,” or, “The cat’s purr,”

or, “The sound of the rain on the roof,” or even, “The beautiful sunset.”

It literally only takes a minute to tap the memory in and then you’ll notice how easy it is to recall it moment by moment.

Do this for a couple of days and those people around you will start asking, “What’s up with you then?  You look happy.”

lots of best wishes Christine

Persistence will pay off and if you encounter difficulties along the way you might want to seek some help form an experienced EFT therapist.  I offer EFT by telephone and for more information visit my website http://www.makingpositivechanges.co.uk.  While you’re there don’t forget to sign up for the free newsletter and get your free 61 page report on EFT

Thanks to one of my students Sharon for sending me the following link to the article on EFT and chocolate addiction from the Sun newspaper.

http://www.thesun.co.uk/sol/homepage/features/2450163/Tap-on-head-cured-my-chocolate-addiction.html

Click on the link to read the article or cut and paste it into your browser.

Great stuff!

Persistence in using EFT generally pays off and if you encounter difficulties along the way you might want to seek some help form an experienced EFT therapist.  I offer EFT by telephone and for more information visit my website http://www.makingpositivechanges.co.uk.  While you’re there don’t forget to sign up for the free newsletter and get your free 61 page report on EFT

The Choices Method

The choices method is a variant of EFT in which the client gets to choose a different outcome to the one being experienced.  The Universe is composed of energy, in fact energy in all it’s myriad forms is all there is.  Every seeming solid object is in fact mostly energy, including ourselves.

When we are in a negative situation, or mindset it sets up a stress within us, in EFT terms our energy system becomes disrupted.  Whenever a stress builds up within us it seeks to be resolved and as this stress is a from of energy, negative energy, it will do what all energy does.  It will seek to dissipate itself and to do this it will seek the path of least resistance.

Energy always seeks the path of least resistance.  Think of a river.  A river runs towards the sea via the path of least resistance.  It runs along the riverbed.  It never jumps out of its normal path and decides to run down another course because the easiest way for it to go is along the path it is already on.  Wind, another form of energy, will not force itself in and through buildings, it will go around them, again the path of least resistance.  Electricity too will follow the same kind of path, even if that path is up your arm.

This phenomenon is Universal, it is natural, it is what energy does.  Everything in nature follows the same rules.  Therefore our stress obeys this natural law too.  When you feel hungry it sets up a stress within, which then seeks to resolve itself and eating releases the stress.  Someone who wants to smoke sets up a stress which is then released through having a cigarette.

To take an example from ordinary conversation, if I ask you a question such as, ‘How are you?”  the structure of the question sets up a tension and the answer to the question resolves that tension.  This is known as an antecedent-consequential phrase; it is the most natural phrasing known in language.

Tension strives for resolution and often causes conflict within us.  Imagine for a moment the person who wants to lose weight.  Thinking about the situation, (being overweight) causes tension and not eating resolves that tension.  However, being hungry causes tension and eating resolves it.  This means that the overweight person is in a double bind.  The tension from not wanting to eat is striving to take the path of least resistance but so is the tension from being hungry.

This is why you may have often found yourself alternating between being good and resisting food and then when the opposite tension has built up to the point where it must be resolved all resolve goes out of the window and you find yourself eating too much again.

Take another situation like public speaking.  Julie had to make presentations at work, but she was terrified every single time she had to do them.  She would shake and sweat at the very thought.  She dare not however refuse to do them as she believed her  job would be at stake.  This left her in a double bind situation.  When  she thought about making presentations she imagined forgetting what she had to say, stuttering and not being able to get the words out or making a fool of herself.  This set up tension and because the tension was seeking resolution she desperately didn’t want to turn up.

When she thought about not turning up however she imagined losing her job, setting up more tension.  This tension also couldn’t be resolved and so because she had all this tension within which was seeking resolution she did what she always did, she got home from work and ate and drank.  The tension (energy) was taking the path of least resistance, which in her case was eating and drinking too much.  Like the river it was taking the well worn path it always had.

There is a way however to change the flow of this energy.  It is possible to change the flow of a river by changing it’s structure.  Engineers can come in and dig another path for the river to flow down.  They can then dam the old well worn river bed and once this is done the river will then flow down the new pathway.  It will still be following the path of least resistance only now the path is changed.  We can do this using the choices method.

The Choices Protocol

The protocol for the EFT Choices technique is known as the “Choices Trio” because it contains three distinct components – three rounds of EFT using Choices.  The intensity level is only assessed after all three rounds.

Preliminary Steps

Before commencing EFT. Obtain an initial intensity rating for the problem you are going to work on and then proceed as follows:

• Identify the negative cognition (thought, attitude, feeling, etc) you want to get rid of.
• Formulate a Choice that is roughly the opposite of this negative cognition, an antidote to it.  For example,” I choose to feel completely at ease when flying,” would be an appropriate choice for the negative cognition, “I’m afraid of flying.”

• Combine the negative with the positive Choice to use in the choices Set-up.  for example, “Even though I am afraid of flying, I choose to feel completely at ease when flying.”
• Tap on the Karate Chop point while repeating this phrase three times.

Follow this by the Choices Trio as follows:

1. Using the short cut do one complete round of EFT using the negative part of the phrase as a reminder only.  For example, “I’m afraid of flying.”
2. Follow immediately by one complete round using the choice, Example, “I choose to feel at ease when flying.
3. Follow with one alternate round, starting with the negative phrase on the first point and ending with a positive Choices phrase.
4. Check intensity rating and if needed follow with another round.

Another point worth mentioning here is that it is very good to add extra positive words or phrases within the choices method.  An example would be, “Even though I am scared of making a fool of myself when I make my presentation, I choose to be amazed at how well I perform.” “Even though I ate too much this evening, I choose to surprise myself by how easy it is to get back on track.”  “Even though I am petrified at the thought of confronting my boss, I choose to feel courageous when I meet him.”

What happens is this.  The tapping balances out the energy system so the negative charge, the fear, starts to dissipate.  It does what all energy does when it builds up and takes the path of least resistance.  This time however you have built a new path, it leads straight to the new choice.  Whenever you think about the situation in the future, any negative charge immediately takes the path of least resistance which is now the Choice you have made.

If it sounds too good to be true, I suggest trying it and testing the results.  I have seen it work beautifully in so many cases that I no longer have any doubts.  Using Choices utilises the path of least resistance inherent in all of nature.  And it uses it simply and easily.

Happiness and success Christine

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EFT on a Page

THE BASIC RECIPE

1. The Setup…Repeat 3 times this affirmation:

“Even though I have this ________ ,I deeply and completely accept myself.” while continuously rubbing the Sore Spot or tapping the Karate Chop point.

2. The Sequence…Tap about 7 times on each of the following energy points while repeating the Reminder Phrase at each point.

EB, SE, UE, UN, Ch, CB, UA, BN, Th, IF, MF, BF, KC

Part 3…Testing

It is always helpful to evaluate the extent of your problem on a scale of 0 to 10 (where 10 represents maximum intensity and 0 represents no intensity whatsoever). This provides a benchmark against which to measure your progress. You might start at a 6, for instance, and then go to a 3….and then a 1….and finally to 0….as various rounds of The Basic Recipe are applied.  You should always measure the intensity as it exists NOW….as you think about it….and not as you think it would be in the actual situation. Remember, The Basic Recipe balances the disruptions in your energy system as they

exist NOW while you are tuned in to the thought or circumstance.

For more information on EFT, to book a one to one therapy session or to join a one day course on EFT contact Christine on 01243 841498 / 07747 865982.

Email christine@makingpositivechanges.co.uk

Web Address www.makingpositivechanges.co.uk

Hi everyone,  here are some very good tapping tips from Carol Look:

Hi All,

I have compiled a list of my favorite tapping tips that have had a dramatic influence on my work and results with clients. Use any that work for you, but I highly recommend trying them all before you dismiss them, especially the ultra simple ones.

1. Opposite Hand Tapping: When tapping on yourself, use your non-dominant hand for a full day, then switch back to your dominant hand, and back again the next day. You could also alternate from round to round of EFT. In my personal opinion, alternating in this way is very helpful because it allows you to more fully integrate the emotional material that you are working on. Of course, we usually favour one side, tending to be right-handed or left-handed, so making use of the “other” hand while tapping through emotional conflicts helps to more fully neutralize the issues. (For those of you who do telephone sessions as either client or practitioner, switch the phone from side to side regularly as well, so alternating ears are “hearing.”)

Here is another variation…Cross Over Tapping: Cross your hands over each other when you tap—so your right hand is tapping on your left side of your face and body, and your left hand is tapping on the right…at the same time. Also, consider tapping while in different positions. Aren’t you always sitting down while tapping? Try standing up when usingEFT, try lying down, tap while you are rolled over on your side. Notice if any new material surfaces. Our bodies are brilliant, and have stored so much information for us.

2. Argument Tapping: I love using this process with clients in a group setting, because most people find it surprising and amusing and seem to get something of value out of it. When you are tapping, voice both sides of an argument with another person around an issue of self-esteem or conflict about yourself. For instance, let’s say your mother or father said you “wouldn’t amount to anything”…(or that “people like you can’t get wealthy”…or that “people like you are never satisfied”…etc) Take both sides and argue the points while you tap, alternating the sides with each consecutive point. For instance, start with the karate chop point, and say, Even though he said I was no good and wouldn’t amount to anything, I choose to accept myself now anyway… Then move to the regular sequence of points and tap as if you are arguing with another person as follows:

• a. Eyebrow: You won’t amount to anything…
• b. Side of Eye: Yes, I will…
• c. Under Eye: No you won’t…
• d. Under Nose: Yes I will…
• e. Chin: Don’t be ridiculous…
• f. Collarbone: I’m smart enough…
• g. Under Arm: Who are you kidding?
• h. Top of Head: I know I can do it…

Be sure to follow how the argument is “looping” in your memory, and vigorously argue both sides. This will help chop down a lot of “trees in your forest.” Proceed with other similar arguments. TheArgument Tapping technique is wonderful for the brain, for the emotional release, and I expect that the absurdity of it all will surface for many of you and feel quite relieving.

This is also useful for getting the tail-enders into your tapping. The next variation of Argument Tapping is to argue with yourself while tapping. When you are tapping and saying something positive, for instance, I know I have what it takes to be successful…you might ‘hear” a tail-ender that says “No I don’t!” Use whatever tail-enders that come up for you in your current round of EFT. So again, you are arguing, but this time with yourself…it would sound like this:

• a. Eyebrow: I have what it takes to be successful…
• b. Side of Eye:No I don’t…
• c. Under Eye: I am smart enough to figure this out…
• d. Under Nose:No I’m not!
• e. Chin: Yes I am!
• f. Collarbone:No I’m not…
• g. Under Arm: I accept my feelings…
• h. Top of Head:I appreciate who I am…

3. Refusal Tapping: When you are using EFT, do one full round of Refusal Tapping to get over the issue you have selected. We have all been told what to do, controlled on a regular basis, influenced by others and manipulated all our lives, and when trying to change, it is very natural to experience an enormous amount of emotional resistance. Part of us believes the change is threatening to our survival. Try giving this part of you a voice for a change, and feel the relief of saying No! Don’t be surprised when this technique speeds up the change you were intending. (I highly recommend using this Refusal Tapping technique is very helpful with chronic illnesses.) Your round from the eyebrow point to the top of the head would proceed as follows:

• a. Eyebrow: I refuse to give this up…
• b. Side of Eye:Don’t even try to make me…
• c. Under Eye: I am so happy I don’t have to get rid of this…
• d. Under Nose: I refuse to change…
• e. Chin: You can’t make me…
• f. Collarbone:Ha ha, I’m keeping this problem…
• g. Under the Arm:You can’t make me get over this…
• h. Top of the Head:I REFUSE TO LET GO OF THIS ISSUE.

4. Look in the Mirror: While tapping several rounds in a row, look into the mirror. This will help you in several areas.

(a) This extra boost will encourage you to absorb the positive affirmation of the setup statement more fully(I deeply and completely love and accept myself).

(b) It will help you when you need to use visualization instead of regular tapping if you are in a public place and don’t feel free to tap on your face and body. You will now have a picture and corresponding memory of what you look like when you tap.

(c) This technique will allow you to see the subtle changes that occur in muscle tone, color and energy in your face and body as you tap. Definitely make use of these clues.

5. Singing Affirmations (while you tap): You may either sing the entire round from negative to positive, or just use singing on the second round when you are “installing” the positive statements. As usual, I do the first round focusing on the “problem” and often switch during a second round (before doing setup phrases again) to more positive statements (such as Pat Carrington’s CHOICES), goals, and intentions. So during this second round, sing your affirmations instead of speaking them. This helps activate the right brain (which is why we use humming in the 9-gamut procedure) and any time we are doing something to promote balance between our two hemispheres of the brain, we are moving towards emotional and physical health.

6. Thank You Tapping: Do at least 3 rounds in a row while tapping on your “Thank You List.” See below:

• a. Eyebrow:Thank you God (Spirit, Universe, Higher Power, Source, Universal Intelligence) for such an abundance of loving friends in my life.
• b. Side of Eye:Thank you God for bringing me the perfect clients for my business.
• c. Under the Eye:Thank you God for resolving that disagreement so quickly.
• d. Under the Nose:Thank you God for bringing that wonderful miracle through me to my client who was in pain.
• e. Chin: Thank you God for my vibrant health and energy.
• f. Collarbone:Thank you God for all the blessings I have in my life today.
• g. Under Arm:Thank you God for bringing me such peace in my life.
• h. Top of the Head:Thank you God for continued guidance and clarity on my path.

7. Guest Tapping: When you are tapping at home alone, wouldn’t you like some extra help? Choose your favorite EFT practitioner, someone you want to give a test run, or Gary Craig, and pretend he or she is tapping for and with you. Picture it, feel it, hear their voice (you might have this in your head from a class or some of the videos). This will help those of you who don’t think you’re good enough at tapping (even though you are…) and opens up your treatment options tremendously. Allow your intuition to choose someone. And don’t be surprised when the “guest tapper” comes up with profoundly brilliant ideas!

8. Photo Tapping: Take out old family photos and identify feelings, themes, incidents and thoughts that were going on when the pictures were taken. You might even take out your high school year book (since High School seems to be so fraught with conflicted feelings for many people…) and tap a few rounds while you are looking at yourself. You may be shocked at how effective this is for bringing up emotions you thought had been “handled.” Here are some options:

• a. Look at yourself in the selected photo objectively, and use words as if you are treating someone else… Even though he was feeling so vulnerable back then, he has a good heart and meant well…Even though he was so scared back then, he’s a great person and has really matured.
• b. Use the first person singular… Even though I was miserable during this time because of that incident, I deeply and completely love and accept myself…Even though I was feeling so sad because of the rejection…Even though I was confused…Even though I didn’t realize I was such a geek… J
• c. Do the same for family members when you see them in the photos: Even though he was angry and said that hurtful thing to me…I deeply and completely love and accept myself…Even though he was drunk in that photo and I remember the fight we had, I choose to release the pain of it now and accept both of us.

9. Past Tense Tapping: After you have completed 2-3 rounds on whatever issue you have chosen, do a final round in the past tense, feeling what it would feel like if you had completely gotten over the problem (even if you haven’t yet). Communicating to yourself this way is very effective. Really FEEL the relief you feel now that it is over!! This is critical.

• a. Eyebrow: I am so grateful I got over this problem…
• b. Side of Eye:I’m so relieved this is over…
• c. Under Eye: I am so happy I am free of this conflict…
• d. Under Nose:It’s about time I got over that!
• e. Chin:Finally, it is in my past where it belongs…
• f. Collarbone:At last, relief and peace on this issue…
• g. Under Arm: I so appreciate all the progress I have made…
• h. Top of Head:Finally, I feel peace from that problem.

10. “You” Tapping: While tapping on one of your own issues, use the “second person singular” over and over again. For example, setup statements at the karate chop point would be: Even though you made a mistake, you were trying to do it right and are allowed not to be perfect…Even though you didn’t mean to hurt her, consider accepting all of you and your feelings…Even though you don’t want to forgive yourself, try accepting your feelings anyway. Then tap the sequence of points using “you” as the subject:

• a. Eyebrow: You made a mistake…
• b. Side of Eye:So what?
• c. Under Eye:You meant well…
• d. Under the Nose:You are human…
• e. Chin: You don’t need to be perfect…
• f. Collarbone:You are lovable anyway…
• g. Under Arm:You are such a good person…
• h. Top of head:You are totally lovable and worthy anyway.

And, FINALLY, a BONUS Tapping Tip…

Much gratitude to all my clients who have taught me how to be a more effective tapper.

11. Kiss and Tap: Kiss someone you love on all the face points and say I love you. Great for kids! Great for lovers! Also, kiss yourself on the 5 finger points of both hands, the karate chop point on both sides, the gamut spot, and any other spots you can reach. J Do this very tenderly.

By Carol Look

EFT Master

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